In principle, detachment is the key to peace.
Sometimes we are so attached to things that we are apt to fight for them, so attached that when they disappear it brings great pain, so attached that our judgment is clouded to the point where we see and feel only conflict.
While right-sized compassion brings comfort, oversized attachment to people, ideas, or feelings brings turmoil and tension. While right-sized determination brings achievement, unwavering attachment to goals or ideals brings conflict.
Practical Tip: Do not be too attached to your group’s cause or decisions that you think the group should make. Do not be too attached to how you think things should be or how others should behave.
It is often those group members who are unreasonably dedicated — those who give an unreasonable amount of time or energy — who cause the most conflict.
Give your best without conditions. Speak your truth without expectations. Use the key, find peace.
– Craig Freshley